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The Loft – Week 6 – Potluck

Welcome to Week 6 of

The Loft ~ A Wednesday Link-Up!

Come on up!!

The Loft: A weekly Hangout and Link Up for Christian bloggers
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You will find my Week 6 post and the linky tool near the bottom, but first, may I remind you how The Loft Link-Up works?

The Loft is a place for conversation, community, networking, and Christian growth.

Each week we provide a topic to start the conversation. Then, Wednesday morning at 5am EST, the link goes live, and for 6 glorious days you can link up your post on that week’s topic. The linky will close at 5pm EST on Monday. Please make sure the post you link-up pertains to the chosen topic of the week.

To Participate:

1. Be creative. Feel free to use words, photos, video, audio, your family pet, whatever, to communicate on the weekly topic.

2. Listen twice as much. If you leave one link, visit two.

3. Be a community. Include #TheLoft graphic and/or hashtag in your post and social media so we can find each other.

4. Write like Jesus would write. We are a Christian link-up. Offensive or inappropriate posts will be deleted. No questions asked.

5. Be pertinent. Our heart is to build community and intimacy, and our means to do that is to build each link-up around a single topic. Please make sure your post is on topic.

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Very excited that the love Chris Malkemes is hosting with us now at The Loft alongside Leah and I! So blessed by her words and very happy that we can host together. Wonderful ladies, beautiful community!


Today’s Topic: “Pot Luck” (you can link up any post, any topic, any picture, anything that strikes your fancy. words, videos, music, pictures…give us your favorite today for our pot-luck get-together)

Cancer, Cardiac Arrest and Continued Faith (Posted on 12th May 2015)

There are some things (more like many things) that I just don’t understand about life. I know that I am not alone in thinking this. We all get thrown curve balls. Perhaps in our jobs, our health, our relationships, our faith among other things. Stuff just doesn’t work out how we imagined it would.

I flicked through my Facebook page to see that there has been a second earthquake in Nepal. It has come only two weeks since the first one that killed over 8000 people. If we start talking politics, I was surprised and saddened by the result of the General Election. Nobody predicted the result – not even the polls. Another curve ball for many. The 9 months of unemployment I have experienced is a recent curve ball in my memory.

Closer to home, a dear friend of mine recently died suddenly after having a major seizure, which caused him to stop breathing and subsequently to go into cardiac arrest. It was unexpected. He had been suffering with an unknown illness for several months, but nobody had expected this. He was my first friend at the Christian Union at university, a follower of our Lord Jesus and a compassionate friend. He had been taken by God at such a young age. I felt deep sorrow for several days before I finally let the tears fall at the service of thanksgiving for his life.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

What future and hope did my friend have? It looked hopeless. I read verses like this and try to place them over my life and the life of others without fully appreciating that God’s ways are higher than our ways. He uses the wisdom of the world to shame the wise. He uses the weak to shame the strong. He does things in a way that my human self cannot comprehend.

In situations like cardiac arrest, natural disasters, unexpected circumstances and death, does God become obsolete? Is He indifferent to the suffering of us and the suffering of others? Is His word void when trouble strikes? Sometimes it an feel like we are the psalmist in Psalm 77:7-9 who says:

 Will the Lord turn away forever? Will He never show favor again? Has His loving-kindness stopped forever? Has His promise come to an end for all time? Has God forgotten to be loving and kind? Has He in anger taken away His loving-pity?

But we know that He is there in times of trouble…

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

What’s more, the psalmist in Psalm 77 chooses to remember all of the things that God has done. He has done truly amazing things through His people in times of trouble. God can make all things work together for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28) – even the challenging, ugly stuff which seems like all hope has faded.

I will remember the things the Lord has done. Yes, I will remember the powerful works of long ago. I will think of all Your work, and keep in mind all the great things You have done. O God, Your way is holy. What god is great like our God? You are the God Who does great works. Psalm 77:11-14

There is real honesty in the Psalms which I can relate to. There are times when I just don’t understand life. But I know that God does.

There is purpose in every problem. There is a point to pain. There is peace in the midst of problems.

Christ Himself demonstrated this on the cross. To those who looked on at the suffering Messiah; who sent Him to be crucified; who mocked Him and told Him if He was the Son of God to save Himself; to the onlookers who were left grieving at the loss of Jesus. There seemed to be no hope or explanation. They were even told by Jesus what was to happen, but they just could not believe or comprehend it.

But Christ’s pain had purpose. His death provided an atonement for the sin of all humanity and everlasting life to all who believed in Him. He conquered death by raising from the dead three days later. He is now seated at the right hand of God. He sent the Holy Spirit to be with us so we are never alone when disaster or tragedy occurs. He has made a plan for our pain.


My friend believed in the living Christ with all his heart. When his heart stopped beating, he departed from this world to be with God forever. He had fought the good fight of faith. I may struggle to understand the plan God has put in place at my friend’s passing. I stand helpless like the family of Jesus at the foot of the cross not realising the victory that Christ has claimed for all mankind. But I know that like Christ’s resurrection, this is not the end. There is new life in Jesus and my friend has a new life, free from all pain and suffering. He is with the Lord that he worshiped and I know that I will see him again at the appointed time that is set for me.

This same friend prayed for me the night before I left university in early 2011 to return to Norfolk to begin six months of chemotherapy treatment. I will never forget that night. I had no idea what the Lord was doing, except that the life I had planned for myself felt like it had been snatched from beneath me. He prayed in faith for the next coming months and for healing.

Cancer was my curve ball. It changed everything. It set me back a year in my studies. I had to say goodbye to some of my closest friends. I had to undergo treatment which made me tired and ill. I had to shave my head as my hair began to fall out. I saw friends in my life continue living whilst my life seemed to come to a stand still. I felt forgotten as life ticked on by without me.

Faded eyebrows... little hair... awesome headscarf.
Weird expression… Faded eyebrows… little hair… awesome headscarf.

But you know what?

  • Cancer brought me closer to God as I relied on Him and not myself
  • Cancer gave me a chance to reflect on my priorities
  • Cancer held me back a year, which gave me an opportunity to meet my future husband
  • Cancer gave me the opportunity to help others through participating in a clinical trial
  • Cancer let me experience this sickness and to empathise with others
  • Cancer sparked my interest in nursing
  • I am now working in an Oncology unit in a hospital to help other cancer patients.

But was it cancer that did all this?


God had a plan for my life from the beginning. Who would have thought that the 19 year old with blood cancer would work with cancer patients only 4 years after treatment and stressful unemployment? Who would have thought the skin head with a drip full of toxic chemicals hooked into her arm would be married 4 years later? Who would have thought that such a change in plans and crazy suffering would bring me closer to God, rather than forcing me away?

Only God. 

He is the only One who could see it coming.

And this is why I stand in continued faith.

I will continue to have faith no matter what the curve ball.

I know that if my friend were still here, he would back me up on this. His faith is an example to me and so many others. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and He binds up their wounds (Psalm 34:18). We know that in times of great difficulty, struggle and pain that God is not far from us. What’s more is that He knows what we are going through because of the cross that Jesus endured for all of us. Finally, He has a plan for the curve balls and works all things out for the good of those that love Him.

He has a plan. We can trust Him. 

Next week’s Topic (July 15th): A Word Prompt ~ (we are tossing out a word. what comes to mind when you see that word? write a post centered around the word prompt. the word for today is LEGACY. give us your best post on the topic of LEGACY.)

I hope you will plan to join us each week at The Loft.

Now, it is time to link-up!!

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8 thoughts on “The Loft – Week 6 – Potluck”

  1. Ruth, what an amazing post! So glad you linked it at The Loft today. Your honest examination of suffering leads to Jesus, and how He is with us and has plans for that suffering. Truly, He wastes no trial, but uses them all for His glory and our good. I’ve been doing something a bit different in my quiet time…something that has blessed me so much. Each day I read a different Psalm, and look in that Psalm for reasons to praise the Lord. Then, I speak praise to Him for those things. This new practice has been so good. It has reminded me of all the reasons I have to praise my God. In good times, and in bad!

    1. That is such wonderful way to look at scripture – thank you for sharing! It blesses me to know how God is speaking to you 🙂 we must praise Him for He is so good! Jesus really does understand suffering because He suffered for each and every one of us! It is amazing that He has plans for our aching and hurting. Just wow!

  2. Ruth. What a story you have to tell – a witness to His goodness in the shadows of His mysteries. He is doing such a wonderful work in you life – in your soul. I am excited for you and for your future in Him. thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability. You’re a true virtual girlfriend….talking to us here in the upper room – The Loft.

    1. Your heart warms my heart every time I read your words Chris 🙂 You are such a wonderful sister in Christ! I love the idea of being a “virtual girlfriend” – you certainly are mine! 😀 Great linking up at The Loft!

  3. “I will continue to have faith no matter what the curve ball.” That sentence stood out for me and was my favorite part of this great post. Thank you for using your writing to share your testimony of God’s healing and faithfulness.

    1. Thank you Rosemary 🙂 God is so good & we must praise his name because he has such a plan for each of us. He is our refuge & strength! Blessings my friend 🙂

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